At my grandmother’s funeral, they said that she would use this expression: grow where you’re planted. I’d never heard her say that before. I didn’t really ask but I couldn’t stop thinking about it. What does that mean to me? I carry it with me now. You might not always be in the best situation or exactly where you want to be in your life but you need to find a way to grow, be happy and appreciate what’s happening around you. That’s hard at first because it has to be a conscious decision to be noticing things and appreciating but then those things become habits. Happiness habits. I try to adopt them into my life. For instance, I hate doing dishes more than anything in the entire world but mindfulness when you’re doing dishes - it smells good, this is making my hands soft, I’m making something clean - changes the experience. Even with people. A lot of times it’s easy to notice things that other people are doing that make you upset or unhappy. You don’t really notice the things that they’re doing well or qualities you like. Making that your focus completely changes your mindset or a negative cycle that a lot of people get stuck in. You get use to it. It’s our responsibility to change our situation if we’re not happy about it.